Fat and Sick

Fat kidsAccording to a 2001 report in Newsweek, six million kids in America were overweight. Ten years later that number has now easily surpassed twenty million. Teens are now one third of all new diagnoses of diabetes. We’re getting fatter and sicker. Increases in weight have caused a skyrocketing of chronic diseases such as obesity, hypertension, diabetes, lipid disorders, cardiovascular disease, polycystic ovarian syndrome, and kidney disease. Weight-related disorders also include orthopedic problems, depression, sleep apnea, infertility, and low sex drive.

The drug manufacturers have a pill for everything with more potential side effects than benefits; none of which address the source of the problem. We are eating ourselves to death and lying out on the couch watching TV waiting for the coroner. We’re fat! We will die early or live a life of misery. Those are the options: DEAD or DYING.  That SUCKS. We must get serious about maintaining a healthy weight and adopting a healthy lifestyle. The choice is yours.

Ask Coach Parker #60

This question comes to us from our friends at stormingthefloor.com.

Stormingthefloor: Coach, one of my readers messaged me to ask if I had any tips on how to improve as a shooting guard. I’m no coach, but I told her not to neglect her defense while striving to become a better scorer. Since I just discovered your blog, I’d love to put the question to a real expert. Thanks!

Coach Carl Parker: Thanks for stopping by! Defense is KEY! It makes a game exciting and will often mean the difference between winning and losing. I also think it’s the major factor when going to the next level of your game.

In my high school program, we train all players as guards no matter their height. We put a lot of work into ball handling, dribbling, finishing, and footwork.

Specifically for becoming a better shooting guard, learn to exploit holes in a defense — from behind — especially when playing against a zone. That means maintaining spacing on fast breaks and knowing how to play away from the ball in the half-court set. She needs to help balance the floor by being an offensive threat. That means catching the ball on balance ready to shoot or attack. She must be a master at setting screens and finding the gaps. Shooting skills mean nothing if she doesn’t know how to find the openings, draw defenders, and handle the ball pressure.

I hope that helps!

Coach Carl Parker

Energy

 

“The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and energy-bulbthe more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results.” – Anthony Robbins

“I have tremendous energy.” This is one of my daily affirmations because I have to remind myself that having energy is a mental effort as much as a physical effort. I know that if I want to have more energy, I need to act with more energy and make it a habit. “The way you do anything is the way you do everything.” In other words, I have to be consistent about my energy in everything that I do.

If you want to have energy you’ve got to move with energy. Here’s how it works. Pick up the pace the next time you’re walking up the stairs or down the hall in your office, or while walking to your car in the parking lot, or down the aisle in the grocery store. Move with enthusiasm and purpose. Be positive and upbeat in your conversations. Laugh. A lot. If you want to have more energy, act like it. Remember, energy creates energy. Imagine what you could create if you lived everyday with more enthusiasm and energy.

Now, go do this.

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Ask Coach Parker #52

Question: School tryouts, never played school basketball, what to expect? My school tryouts are next week for basketball, but I have never played organized ball. I’ve only played pick-up games, street games. So, all these plays — cutting this way, that way — is new to me.

What should I expect at a school basketball tryout?

Answer: Expect to be nervous. Get warmed up. The jitters won’t last for long. Expect to make a few mistakes. Your basketball IQ will likely be a weakness, but that’s OK if you show the coaches a willingness to learn (don’t be afraid to ask questions). Expect tough competition from new and returning players who want a spot on the team just as much as you do. You will need to EARN your spot AND their respect. And, most importantly, expect tryouts to be a great experience that you’ll ALWAYS remember whether or not you make the team. Enjoy every moment!

When I conduct varsity basketball tryouts each year, I look for students with serious talent and experience, of course, but I also look for those students who possess 4 KEY attributes that are even more meaningful to our successful season:

1. HUSTLE all practice long. Fight for every loose ball and rebound. If a coach calls you over, run it in. It shows me that you would bring great energy to my practices and that necessary spark we need in games. I love it!

2. SPEAK UP! Call out the name of the person you’re passing to. I want to hear you shout things like “PICK,” “I GOT IT,” and “BALL, BALL.” Also, THANK the teammate who provided you the assist. Be the best cheerleader out there — on court and from the sideline. Help your teammates by encouraging them. It will boost their confidence and improve their performance. It shows that you understand that basketball is a team sport, and you would fit nicely on my roster.

3. LISTEN. If you’re not clear, ask the coach to repeat. If you’re speaking while I’m speaking, you’re not listening — that’s disrespectful. If you can’t listen, you won’t play for my team. Maintain eye contact, and speak clearly and confidently: “Yes sir.” “No sir.”

Heard, understood, acknowledged!

4. Be ENTHUSIASTIC. I’m looking for students who appear to enjoy playing basketball as much as I enjoy coaching the game. S\he will develop and grow as an important part of my team, because they will be eager to learn. Enthusiasm is infectious, so enjoy the game. Coaches will want to keep you around!

Have fun and Good Luck!
Coach Carl Parker

Up Against The Wall

We’ve all been there: Backed into a corner. Down for the count. We’ve taken so many hits that we don’t know which way is up. There’s a point when we realize that the situation is so bad that it’s only going to get worse. It’s the point before “rock bottom.” It’s the defining moment laying in wait for us at the end of every dark and scary tunnel.

If you’re free-falling and the end isn’t in sight, guess what? You have nothing to lose, so FIGHT.

You might as well swing as hard as you can, because you’re taking a major ass whooping anyway. An all out, no holds barred approach is all you got, so FIGHT.

What are you waiting on? Do it now.  Now is not the time to worry about etiquette or care about what other people may think. Everything you own will be on the curb once you’re evicted. Or, your spouse is in the other room packing; s\he is leaving you. Or, your employer just posted your current position online.

Pause.

Again, this is the moment BEFORE rock bottom. You’re up against the wall, so FIGHT.

Whatcha you gonna do?

5 Rules For REAL Fat Loss

It’s not rocket science, so we’re going to keep it very simple. As with everything in life, simple is better. Simple works.

  1. Eat REAL foods. Processed foods are killing us.
    Photo: Associated Press

    Photo: Associated Press

    Eat whole foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, wild-caught seafood and locally raised meats, and dairy products such as unsweetened yogurt, eggs, and cheese. NO refined grains, refined sugars, no deep fried foods, and NO FAST FOOD.

  2. Lift REAL weights. Building muscle improves your mood, shrinks belt sizes, and helps you burn fat all day long. More lean muscle means your body will need more fuel to support the new muscle. Your main source of fuel is stored fat. Therefore, more muscle = more fat burned. A University of Alabama study finds that you lose more belly fat lifting heavy weights than by doing cardio alone, which takes us to Rule #3.
  3. Kick the cardio machine addiction. Full disclosure: I hate tread mills, and, for the life of me, I cannot understand how people stay on those things for hours and hours… well, unless you’re training for a marathon, and it’s below zero outside in the middle of an ice storm. Bottom line:  If you’re trying to drop 20 lbs, improve your nutrition habits and lift weights. Cardio should be a distant third priority for simple fat loss.
  4. Stay positive, and keep up the good work. Training because you hate your body is a recipe for failure.
    Photo: Getty Images

    Photo: Getty Images

    We all want to look better, but that alone cannot be your reason for working out. Train because you like the feeling of being strong enough to kick someone’s butt. Train because it can help extend your life, and you’ll have more fun living it. Hell, train because you’ll have better sex. Whatever your motivation, keep it positive.

  5. Be patient. “Rome wasn’t built in a day”… blah, blah, blah. Fact is, you didn’t get fat in a day either. It took weeks, months, or even years, and achieving your goal for losing 30 lbs won’t happen overnight. Lock in on your target, and get to work. Be patient, and be consistent — forming new habits take time. I promise that it will get easier.

Now go do this…

Family First, Part 3

These are three simple strategies for enjoying a long and prosperous career as a coach. Stephen Covey talked about the principle of “first things first.” Nothing is more important than putting your family first. Coaches put family first and lead by example by 1) Embracing the family network, 2) Living what you coach, and 3) Sharing your passion with loved ones.

3. Share Your Passion With Loved Ones
It was my youngest son who has tons of energy who has pulled me out of that fog that I’ve been in. He is so passionate about playing the game of basketball that he is always asking me to go to the gym to practice. He wants to learn. It was during one of those workouts with Mikey that it hit me. That was me when I was his age. I know what it feels like to want a coach. It’s not rocket science yet it took me years to understand. I should be doing coaching my kids every chance I get. I have the resources. I have a gym. I have the knowledge. I have the experience. Most of all, they want me to work with them. My son should not have to go anywhere else to learn the fundamentals of the game. Dad is a coach. And before he is anyone else’s coach, Dad should be his son or daughter’s coach first. That is family first.

I think I’m a good dad. But family first means that I also coach my kids if that’s what they need. Kind of a weird concept. I guess what I’m saying is that I can be daddy and a coach to my kids. In fact, what is better than sharing my passion for the game of basketball with my own children? Working out with my sons in camp this summer and on weekends whenever we have a chance and just sitting around talking about basketball with all three of them has been one of the best experiences of my coaching career. I don’t have to compartmentalize my life as a basketball coach from my family life. I am lucky they all came together. I love my family. I love this game.

Living what you teach is the only way to coach from the heart. Putting your family first will make you a great coach.

Part 1, Part 2

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The 6 W’s

Think about it.

“The Six W’s: Work will win when wishing won’t.”
- Todd Blackledge

Leaders: Are you wishing or winning?

Reality check…
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Are you wishing or working?

We wish we spent more time with our kids. We wish our lives were better. We wish we were in better shape. Wish, wish, wish… Noah didn’t wish he had a boat and  Peter didn’t wish he could walk on water.

Stop wishing and start working. As parents and leaders we must model the ethic of hard work. Most of us preach it but too few actually lead by example.

Not happy with those weak arms of yours? Do 10 pull-ups right now. Tired of getting passed up for promotions? Increase your value by signing up for that online certification course right now. Did you just notice your baby girl is about to be off to college in a year? Turn off the TV and tell her that funny story you just remembered about her when she was 4 years old. We never regret the things we did. We regret the things we didn’t do.

Less wishing + More DOING = WINNING. Now get out there and make it happen. Your team is counting on you.

Love your team!

Coach Carl Parker

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Family First, Part 2

Coaches must put family first to be successful in the long run. In Part 1 we talked about Embracing the Family Network.

2. Live what you coach.

As coaches, we have a tremendous opportunity to guide the emotional, physical, and spiritual development of our student-athletes. Their character will reflect the lessons we teach on and off the court. You cannot coach what you do not know for yourself. I’ve always said that coaching has made me a better man and this is why: I make an effort to practice what I preach, so coaching for me starts at home.

I knew my wife was a keeper when she put up with all my long hours as an athletic director. She wore the prettiest smile while helping me sweep, mop, sell snacks at games, and babysit on road trips. Without her I am sure I wouldn’t have succeeded. She continued to support me even when it seemed that no one else would. She was always my loudest cheerleader at games and at home when I could only manage to get a couple hours of sleep for nights on end. She was often stronger than me and still managed to balance her high-profile, high-stress position as executive director in the D.C. government. If I did not make family first during my tenure as AD I sure I would have burned out long ago.

I have three athletically gifted children who I love with all my heart. Yet I found that I failed to truly embrace the family first principle as a dad.

My daughter who was always the tallest girl in her class was always being asked if she plays basketball. And it’s a reasonable question because they knew that I was the girls’ varsity basketball coach. The sad fact is that she never really played because I’ve never had time to coach her and teach her how to play the game. I spent my time coaching everyone else’s kids and not mine. Despite that fact, one of the best things my daughter ever said to me is that “[She] loves the way that I am like a daddy to all my players but I’m really her dad.” So I’m still a pretty good dad but I can’t help but feel that I missed a great opportunity to spend even more time with her. That’s not family first.

My eldest son who is entering the ninth grade this fall just started playing basketball. He’s been a baseball player for years. Although I knew very little about the technical aspects of baseball I’ve always supported him and cheered him on.  But it appears that he has wanted to play basketball all along. Watching him make the seamless transition from accomplished baseball player to a seriously competitive basketball makes me wonder, how much better he would be right now if I spent more time with him all these years? That’s not family first. Again I am a basketball coach. Why have I not been coaching my own children all these years?

To be continued. Part 3

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Family First, Part 1

Coaches in every sport preach the law of “family first” to their team every season but manage to screw it up every time in their own homes. We teach it to our student athletes. It’s in bold ink in our coaching philosophies. It hangs from banners in our locker-rooms. We drive it home at every opportunity we get. “Family first. Family first.” What does it really mean? Here are a three ways I’ve learned to truly put my family first on my journey to success.

1. Embracing the family support network.

I had an opportunity today to briefly catch up my cousin Vincent who is a filmmaker in Chicago. Since the last time we spoke almost a year ago, I have been through a significant professional challenge in which I found myself knee-deep in the type of political foolishness every coach finds themselves in at least once in their careers. And only now did I realize that, after having made it through with a few bumps and bruises, never once did I pick up my phone and call any of my four sisters, my parents, aunts, uncles, or cousins for help, support, or advice. I became so wrapped up in the problem that I failed to reach out to the love and reliability of my family. That’s a problem. That is not Family First.

Make sure that your family is a consideration in everything that you plan throughout your coaching career. As you plan your practice and game schedule put your family first. When you’re encountering political pressures from the administration or from disgruntled parents, and all kinds of angry, nasty people that we may deal with as coaches, put your family first by remembering that their love and support helped you get this far in your career and they will continue to have your back. The deep wisdom within the family circle is amazingly strong. Use it. That’s Family First.

To be continued. Part 2

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